Coping with the Rough Days

Katrina Ann Taylor, Columnist, MSnewsChannel.com
We, as the famous MS’ers have it rough most of our days. What do we do on our good days? Truth be told, we push ourselves as hard as we can and enjoy the hell out of it! Do we have regrets on our bad days (Which one of our bad days is usually the very next day after our good day)? Hell no! This is expected for the most part. This cycle is our life. Do we enjoy this cycle? Absolutely NOT! Who in his/her right mind would? Nobody, of course!

What happens when rough days come when we don’t see these days coming? It’s difficult when we are blinded by this happening in our lives. It’s very difficult to make plans and to care for our family and ourselves. Responsibilities don’t stop on our rough days. So what do we do? That is the hardest question to answer. Support is the key to success with living with multiple sclerosis. Unfortunately, support has his/her own responsibilities and this is what makes these days frustrating and lonely.
Recovering is essential and so is a close relationship with your neurologist. Did I hear a groan when I mentioned neurologist? I know, some neurologists aren’t too pleasant. What flares multiple sclerosis? Overexertion, heat, infection, stress are to name the most common when there aren’t any new or active lesions. We have to fix the problem(s) and recover to feel better! Calm down, cool down, rest, rid of infection, and if this doesn’t work, it’s time to call the neurologist to find out what’s going on with the multiple sclerosis.

The biggest way to cope is to talk, talk, and talk to your support team. Most of my biggest help is my family and friends. When I reach out to others with multiple sclerosis, I get a strong support from others who know exactly what I go through. It’s nice to have this wonderful circle of friends who can be there is a very special way, because these special individuals completely understand. It’s the understanding at that level that is so therapeutic and helps with the coping. Strength through others who understand is the best therapy, the best coping for these difficult days that will be a part of our lives.

We are stronger together. We are all strong, even when we don’t feel like we are very strong. Remember we are all in this together. J

Stay Strong & Keep Fighting!
Katrina A. Taylor

I WON'T GIVE UP ON MYSELF AFTER MY HEART BREAK & LOSS

It has been a long time since I believed in myself, especially with all the sad things that have happened to me. It is sometimes very difficult to find happiness and believe in myself with having a chronic illness. Well, doesn’t that make much sense? Depression and low self-esteem is hard to get a grip on with so much which seemed to just go wrong. Also, thinking someone can handle the chronic illness and then well, there that person goes running, is very hurtful and sometimes devastating. It’s been completely heartbreaking. I can’t seem to find anyone to handle me having MS. Three relationships promised, but in the end promises weren’t kept.

I have to leave it all behind me and move forward. When it fell apart, life didn’t end, it just got better. When things in life fall apart, lives don’t end, we become stronger in the end. Maybe at the time things fell apart, it might have felt like life did end. But we are still alive, right? Sure, we are and we’ll continue rocking out our lives! 

How do we continue when everything has been lost and promises were broken? Time heals all wounds? Not necessarily, time does help but we heal because we’re resilient and we become stronger, lesson learned, and we pick up ourselves to move forward. Support system is probably the most important way to heal and as time moves on, we heal, better than ever.
 
Recently, I thought I had found the one and it was wonderful and beautiful. He claimed strength and that I was stuck with him. Where is he now? Gone. How long did it last? From June until August 20th. Well, that was quick! Ha What am I doing? I’m moving forward because I’m in control of my life, not him or anyone else. We look within ourselves and we’ll find more than we could ever expect. We’re strong! It’s hard to find someone who can handle chronic illness, but somewhere out there, I still have hope. I just won’t give up on myself, my life, or possible a happy, healthy relationship.
I wish you all the very best with overcoming and finding yourself after heartbreak and loss!!

MY COLUMN THIS WEEK IS ABOUT ME & LOVE & DIVORCE, DEVASTATION, LONELINESS & PAIN!

My October Loneliness 


Feeling more alone in her room as she watches another commercial, How sweet these couples are advertising items supposedly special For the one you love to celebrate with on another Valentine’s Day. Who really needs all the chocolate or a huge, expensive bouquet? Her memories flash back to the previous year when she was happy, And married to the one who was going to love her forever, so faithfully; She thought her life was like a dream, she is now becoming very sad.

Missing what her life once was, realizing how she misses all that she had, Knowing what she lost is now forever gone, she must move forward; Thinking about her broken feelings, all she can think about is feeling adored. She goes online to create profile, hoping she will meet a friend on the site, Becoming...

Katrina Ann Taylor, Poet & Columnist: I WROTE A POEM TODAY FOR MY COLUMN! PLUS LOTS OF INFO ON ANXIETY

I've written 6 columns for you.
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My Tears II
The night comes and shakes me to my core,
Tonight is much worse than the night before.
I am breathing but still I cannot get any air;
I feel alone and feel there is nobody to care.
I can hear my heart pounding in my ears;
Intensity overwhelms and now pours the tears.


ANXIETY!

Anxiety. It comes for many people it night. What causes the anxiety? Many are not sure of the triggers. Will a journal help? Sure, it can help with getting the feelings out and then it can be reviewed for a pattern. Maybe a trigger can be discovered and if a person is in counseling, it can helpful for the therapist.

Anxiety may be a result of a mental disorder, physical condition, medication effects, or from all of these. There are some common causes of anxiety, it varies in everyone.

I thought I would never have love with MS, since I have had two failed relationships after the ms diagnosis. True love is possible with a chronic, unpredictable illness.

 
Katrina Taylor, Columnist & Poet, MSnewsChannel.com
Share my poem. It's a poem about finding a love when least expected, finally true love. A love I found with a man who accepts me and accepts my multiple sclerosis. For a long time, I thought I would never have love with ms, since I have had two failed relationships after the ms diagnosis. True love is possible with a chronic, unpredictable illness.

A Love like This
I have spent many days searching for what I thought I would never find;
Never knowing that one day we would be brought together, but rewind
To those earlier days when the mistakes were made along the way
To the moment that we would be brought together on our fateful day

Coping with the Rough Days

 Katrina A. Taylor, Columnist, MSnewsChannel.com

Coping with the Rough Days

We, as the famous MS’ers have it rough most of our days. What do we do on our good days? Truth be told, we push ourselves as hard as we can and enjoy the hell out of it! Do we have regrets on our bad days (Which one of our bad days is usually the very next day after our good day)? Hell no! This is expected for the most part. This cycle is our life. Do we enjoy this cycle? Absolutely NOT! Who in his/her right mind would? Nobody, of course!

What happens when rough days come when we don’t see these days coming? It’s difficult when we are blinded by this happening in our lives. It’s very difficult to make plans and to care for our family and ourselves. Responsibilities don’t stop on our rough days.

So what do we do? That is the hardest question to answer. Support is the key to success with living

MY COLUMN THIS WEEK IS ABOUT ME & LOVE & DIVORCE, DEVASTATION, LONELINESS, PAIN & THEN TRUE LOVE!

Her February Loneliness

Feeling more alone in her room as she watches another commercial, How sweet these couples are advertising items supposedly special For the one you love to celebrate with on another Valentine’s Day. Who really needs all the chocolate or a huge, expensive bouquet? Her memories flash back to the previous year when she was happy, And married to the one who was going to love her forever, so faithfully; She thought her life was like a dream, she is now becoming very sad. Missing what her life once was, realizing how she misses all that she had, Knowing what she lost is now forever gone, she must move forward; Thinking about her broken feelings, all she can think about is feeling adored. She goes online to create profile, hoping she will meet a friend on the site, Becoming surprised by the responses, she begins to talk to a man that night. Amazed at how easily the two of them talked, understanding each other’s pain, Days going by, they continue talking to another feeling they have much to gain. After a week of talking, the two decided they had to meet each other in person, Spending time together, dining out, watching movies, they were having much fun. Soon, the two have become seriously involved with one another, she falls deep. He is now invading her life, controlling decisions, her every move, even her sleep; Nothing she says can make him understand that who he is becoming is very wrong. She explains this is not the way a person lives their life, while

What It Feels Like To Be Katrina Taylor!

I grew up in a small Mississippi town where I live today with family. I never liked small towns, but today I feel like it’s finally home. I once dreamed of a big city being my home, living in a nice house, and having a successful profession. I achieved most of my goals only to have it taken away from me. I’ve lost a lot and I’ve gained even more than I could ever imagine. I now know what’s important in life and it’s not what I once dreamed about.
2006 was the year that would change my life, send me home, and teach me a life lesson that I would never forget. August 1, 2006 is the exact date that I was told that I have multiple sclerosis. I was living what I thought was the perfect life with my husband and two sons in a gated community in Phoenix, AZ working for Banner Health as a registered nurse and attending school full-time for a bachelor’s degree in nursing.

Soon, I was no longer able to work and we had to move back to Mississippi to live with family for about nine months. It was difficult and I was losing myself quickly. A few months later in early 2007, I had a nervous breakdown. I didn’t want to live life anymore; I didn’t know how to deal with all that had happened to me. I received treatment and soon found the strength to cope as much as I could and returned to work as a registered nurse. After only nine months, I had to stop working because of my multiple sclerosis.

February 2009, I was back home living with Mother, divorced, and had custody of only one of my two sons. It was a very difficult time for me and very heartbreaking. I wasn’t really sure what to do with my life; I did not know who I was anymore. As the year went on, so did my depression but with a little help from my friends with multiple sclerosis I learned to finally accept having multiple sclerosis and see the good in life.

After struggles, I see how beautiful life can be. I’m amazed at happy I am even with living with chronic pain and chronic illness. Every day isn’t easy, but with love and support, I am enjoying my life for the first time in a very long time. I want you all to know that I’ve been as low as low can be, but I have climbed to a beautiful place in my life and I could not be happier if I tried to be. Make this life yours and fight multiple sclerosis with seeing the brighter side, because I promise you, there is always a brighter side. Always!

Remember, if life was easy it would be boring. Remember that those rough days do not last forever!

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